Massachusetts Wed Same-Sex Couple Allowed to Divorce in Pennsylvania


About ten years ago, a same-sex couple married on the first day that the state of Massachusetts allowed for legalized same-sex weddings. According to a report in the L.A. Times, the women relocated to Pennsylvania with their one-year-old daughter to finish school and start a business. When their happy ending ended in a decision to divorce, the couple found themselves unable to do so because the state of Pennsylvania did not recognize their marriage. Without that recognition, the state refused to allow them to engage in the divorce process, even though Massachusetts legally recognized them as a married couple. According to the report, going through the Massachusetts courts was not an option, because neither spouse was a resident of the state any longer. Relocation and established residency are required before a divorce action is commenced. The couple decided to stay married and live separate lives, while hoping for a change in the Pennsylvania laws.

After more than five years of waiting, that change came earlier this week when a federal judge found Pennsylvania’s ban on same-sex marriage unconstitutional. The next day Pennsylvania Governor Tom Corbett announced that he would not seek to overturn the ruling, paving the way for same-sex marriages in Pennsylvania and the recognition of same-sex marriages from other states.

This situation is reportedly a common one among the gay community. The variation of state laws create a situation where same-sex marriages are treated vastly different depending on the jurisdiction. Within the last year, New Jersey and Delaware legalized same-sex marriage, but this was of no assistance to the married couple in the article, even though they resided in a neighboring state. Federally, the United States Supreme Court struck down the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which allowed same-sex married couples to claim federal benefits. The United States Treasury Department also weighed in on the controversial debate, by allowing the couples to file joint tax returns.

According to the report, Delaware, Vermont and Maryland waive the residency requirement for same-sex married couples who want to file for divorce in their jurisdictions. The states of Wyoming and Colorado do not allow same-sex marriages. However, the legislatures adopted laws to allow for divorces of same-sex couples married elsewhere.

Divorce in Massachusetts

The state of Massachusetts requires one-year of residency for a divorce, or the grounds for divorce must occur within the state. The possible grounds for divorce include:

  • Adultery on the part of one or both spouses;
  • Desertion of spouse that has been continuous for at least one year;
  • Cruel and abusive punishment;
  • Impotency;
  • Habitual, voluntary drunkenness or intoxication; and
  • Cruel and wanton refusal to provide financial support.

Massachusetts also recognizes a no-fault grounds for divorce, which is the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage, without no fault being placed on either party.

Regardless of the grounds claimed, a collaborative divorce can assist in making the process more amicable and lessen the amount of court involvement. In a collaborative setting, the spouses voluntarily work with a neutral third party to come to a mutually acceptable agreement.

The Law Office of Martin Murphy LLC can assist you and your spouse with a collaborative divorce settlement. Call the office today at (781)285-8989 for a consultation.

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Celebrity Divorce Raises Questions About Prenuptial Agreements

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Another celebrity divorce scandal is in the newspapers. This time, the controversy involves comedian and talk show host Sherri Shepherd and her husband of nearly three years. According to the Los Angeles Times, the major areas of contention concern the enforcement of a prenuptial agreement. The agreement reportedly states that Shepherd’s ex-husband will receive a one-time payment of $60,000 based on the length of their marriage. The agreement excludes the granting of any alimony or maintenance payments. Reports also state that the agreement awards custody of any children born from the marriage to Shepherd. The parties are reportedly expecting a baby in July, with the assistance of a surrogate.

According to the article, while Shepherd is asking the court to uphold the prenuptial agreement, her husband is asking the court to throw it out based on allegations of fraud. He is asking for alimony, custody of the unborn child and child support. Adding more challenges to the situation is the fact that Shepherd reportedly filed for divorce in the state of New York, where the couple resided for the last three years. Meanwhile her husband filed a separation agreement in California, where he recently relocated. It has not yet been determined which state will hear the case, but there are residency requirements in each jurisdiction.

Prenuptial Agreements in Massachusetts

In the state of Massachusetts, prenuptial agreements are also called antenuptial agreements. These are collaborative agreements that couples create prior to the marriage. They commonly address how the couple will separate property in case of divorce. As in the Shepherd case, prenuptial agreements may also include custody determinations and decisions about spousal maintenance. The Massachusetts divorce statute only requires that it is in writing. However, through various rulings in prenuptial cases, the courts have created other guidelines for consideration.

Couples must enter into prenuptial agreements with full disclosure. Each party must provide the other with complete and accurate information about their individual financial situations, including assets and debts. The court also ruled that the prenuptial agreement must prove fair and reasonable at the time of execution. However, this does not necessary mean that all distributions must be fair and equitable. The courts give couples wide discretion when creating the terms of an agreements Their usage of “fair and equitable” means that a financially disadvantaged spouse cannot be “stripped of substantially all martial interest,” as stated by the court in the divorce case DeMatteo vs. DeMatteo. Under this determination, an unfair prenuptial agreement is not automatically invalid.

As in the Shepherd case, when one spouse contests the provisions of a prenuptial agreement, the court must decide whether to uphold it. However, before putting the decision in the hands of a judge, couples still have the opportunity to come together and mediate alterations to the agreement that satisfy both spouses. This is best done with the assistance of a mediator, who serves as a neutral third party.

The Law Office of Martin Murphy LLC can assist you and your spouse in the mediation of a contested prenuptial agreement. Call the office today at (781)285-8989 for a consultation.

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Deciding Who Pays the Student Loan Debts

Divorce is not only the separation of relationship, it is also the separation of financial resources and responsibilities. A recent article in The Wall Street Journal discusses the issue of student loan debt and who is responsible for it after the divorce. According to the article, a spouse who incurs educational debts prior to marriage generally remains solely responsible for those loans. It is a misconception to assume that a new spouse takes on the responsibility for these prior debts, as they do not have any liability for the loan.

Complications arise when the debts are incurred after marriage. If one or both spouses decide to take out college loans during the marriage, responsibility for the loans can vary depending on the jurisdiction and which spouse benefitted from the advance in education. Divorce courts are generally granted wide discretion in determining how to divide assets and debts. In considering student loans, the judge will look at several elements. The financial status of each spouse following the divorce may be considered. If one party will earn a substantially higher income, that person may have to provide financial support to the other party for assistance in repaying education debts. However, depending on the property rules in the marital state, the judge may split the debts in half regardless of the individual financial situations.

Further complicating matters, some jurisdictions classify professional degrees earned during as marital property. This can result in the degree earner having to compensate the other spouse for supporting their pursuit of higher education. This compensation is for the sacrifices that are made in support of the education, and may include child care, maintaining the home or taking on a part time job to supplement the family income. In these cases, the court’s rationale is that certain actions should not go without adequate recompense.

These student loan issues are more pressing among recent and current college students. As stated in the Wall Street Journal article, “College students who took out loans and earned bachelor’s degrees in 2012 graduated with an average $29,400 in educational debt, according to the Institute for College Access and Success.” The number increases substantially for those graduating with advanced degrees.

Marital Division of Debt in Massachusetts

Massachusetts is an equitable distribution state, where the judge is allowed discretion in determining how to divide marital assets and debts. In long marriages, absent findings of misconduct, the judge is likely to make a 50/50 split, placing both spouses on equal financial footing. In shorter marriages, the court generally tries to place each spouse in a financial situation that is similar to what they maintained prior to the the union.

Some spouses choose to avoid a determination by the judge. Instead, they utilize mediation and collaborative methods to settle the financial issues of the divorce. In this process, the spouses voluntarily work with a neutral third party to come to a mutually acceptable agreement. In general, this agreement is included in the divorce decree, eliminating the need for a divorce judge to make decisions about your personal matters.

If you and your spouse are considering divorce, contact the Law Office of Martin Murphy LLC for a collaborative divorce agreement that includes college debt payments. Call the office today at (781)285-8989 for a consultation.

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Massachusetts Divorce Bill Gets Personal


A Massachusetts lawmaker recently proposed a bill that dives deep into the personal lives of divorcing couples. Republican State Senator Richard Ross proposed bill S787, which mandates that divorcing couples, who have a child or children, abstain from sexual intercourse or romantic interludes during a separation. According to a report in Kentucky Newsday, Ross created this bill at the request of a constituent. The bill states, in part:

‘In divorce, separation, or 209A proceedings involving children and a marital home, the party remaining in the home shall not conduct a dating or sexual relationship within the home until a divorce is final and all financial and custody issues are resolved, unless the express permission is granted by the courts.’

If the bill becomes law, divorcing parties, with children, will need to obtain permission from a judge before dating or having sexual relations within the marital home. This means that the spouse who remains in the martial house cannot bring any party into the home for romantic purposes. From the language of the bill, it appears that this provision even includes any romantic relations between the divorcing couple. Couples with no children would not be held to this requirement.

The senator has taken substantial criticism for the bill from the media and Massachusetts residents. He answers by asserting that he filed it solely at the request of a loyal voter. Ross explains that the constituent endured a very difficult divorce process and asked him to create this bill that would directly address this sensitive issue among separated couples. The physical bill contains the words “by request,” meaning that the senator is proposing the legislation, even though he disagrees with it himself.

Massachusetts Law About Separation

Currently, under Massachusetts divorce law, there is no prohibition on sexual relations, between a married couple, during the separation period. In some states, divorcing parties are required to give testimony and affirm that they are no longer living together or having sexual relations. If the court finds that the couple engaged in sex during the separation period, the divorce request may be possibly denied. Massachusetts divorce law does not include this mandate. If this new bill is passed, divorcing couples, with children, will not only have to notify the court of any plans for a sexual relationship, but wait for the judge to grant permission before carrying through with their plans. The bill gives no direction about enforcement, which is a substantial problem. Questions abound about how the spouse will request permission and how much information the court will require. In addition, what method of review will the judge utilize to make a determination on the issue?

These issues may explain why the Bill S787 is not seeing much success in the Massachusetts legislature. It was originally proposed in early 2013, but it was not until last week that it was first discussed in Senate hearings. On March, 20, 2014, the bill was granted an extension for consideration until June 30, according to reports. Ross has not expressed much enthusiasm for the success of the bill, stating it is “going nowhere is the legislature.”

Separation and divorce are complex issues. If you and your spouse are considering divorce, call the Law Office of Martin Murphy LLC at (781)285-8989 for collaborative representation through the complexities of the divorce process.

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Preparing Your Finances for a Collaborative Divorce

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A recent report by ABC News discusses the economics of divorce. The end of a marriage can prove financially and emotionally devastating for both parties, especially when the spouses are communicating with one another in a negative and uncooperative manner. A collaborative divorce is one where the parties come to a mutual agreement, without interference from the court system. According to the ABC News report, advanced planning can help make the divorce process easier for all involved.

Separation of Assets

The report advises parties to divide their shared assets by closing joint bank accounts and credit cards. Disagreements about shared debts can quickly derail an amicable separation. Establish personal accounts to protect your own personal assets.

The article also suggests that separated parties monitor their credit reports for any suspicious or unauthorized activity because spouses typically have access to the Social Security number of the other spouse. You want to make sure that your spouse is not opening accounts in your name.

Learn About Your Financial Options

The article points out the importance of financial management during the divorce process. Review the status of all bank accounts and debts with your attorney to establish a clear picture of your situation. Your attorney can assist you with identifying your options and deciding which alternative is best. If you are mediating an amicable divorce, your lawyer may only need to talk with your spouse to make some mutual decisions. If the two of you are unable to reach an agreement, a third party mediator is of valuable assistance during this stage in the process.

CBS Money Watch recently published a similar article to advise consumers about divorce and financial planning. The article discusses the challenges of a divorce and how stress sometimes influences parties to make quick, knee-jerk financial decisions in hopes of promptly ending the marriage. However, settling without a well-thought plan can reportedly lead to financial ruin in the months or years following a divorce. To avoid this conclusion, the CBS money article also provides several planning tips:

Seek Help to Answer the “What If” Questions

According to the article, a certified divorce financial analyst can help you consider the status of your finances under various possible scenarios. The article advises that these professionals are specifically trained to “help you see in black and white what your finances and life will look like under different scenarios.” The analyst can provide your attorney with valuable information to assist in the collaborative process.

Don’t Let the Divorce Consume You

Parties to a divorce tend to become completely consumed by the process and the feelings involved. Particularly in a contentious divorce, negative thoughts and emotions can smother one’s well being. The article suggests that parties continue to participate in activities that they enjoy throughout the divorce process. “Whatever it is that gave you joy and fulfillment, add it back to your schedule,” advises the author. Maintaining a healthy balance can be beneficial to the process as well. High emotions and stress can lead to irrational and non productive encounters between you and your soon to be ex-spouse. When both parties are emotionally and mentally balanced, a collaborative process can be beneficial to everyone.

If you and your spouse are considering divorce, call the Law Office of Martin Murphy LLC. With mediation services and collaborative representation, the Law Office of Martin Murphy LLC stands apart from other divorce firms. Contact the office at (781) 285-8989 for a consultation today.

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Paltrow’s “Conscious Uncoupling” May Benefit Children of Divorce

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Earlier this week, actress Gwyneth Paltrow announced that she and musician husband, Chris Martin, are separating after ten years of marriage. While the tabloids excitedly reported about the break up announcement, her words to describe the separation caused even more of a stir. In a joint statement on her lifestyle website, Paltrow and her husband stated, “We have always conducted our relationship privately, and we hope that as we consciously uncouple and coparent, we will be able to continue in the same manner.”  It is the phrase “consciously uncouple” that is at the center of the controversy.

According to a CBS News report, “conscious uncoupling” is a term created by Los Angeles family therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas. The relationship author is the creator of a website that purports to provide a five step program for couples to consciously uncouple from one another. Thomas states that she has never counseled Paltrow and Martin. However, she applauds the couple’s commitment to an “honorable ending” of their marriage. Though news outlets are buzzing with criticism of Paltrow’s statement and Thomas’ theories, numerous studies support the value of the message that they are sending.

Effects of a Contentious Divorce on Children

Divorces are notoriously characterized as contentious and messy. It is a situation where two people, who once loved each other enough to exchange vows, are now pitted against one another in a heated battle, each trying to gain leverage over the other. The website,, is a project of the National Healthy Marriage Resource Center (NHMRC). According to a report published on the site, parental behavior during a divorce greatly influences the effects of divorce on the children. Often, the only positive aspect of a divorce, from a child’s perspective, is the end of an embattled household. If negative interactions continue during the divorce process, the children continue to be affected by the parents’ bad behaviors, instead of being freed from the negativity of the marriage. The “honorable ending” promoted by Katherine Woodward Thomas is seemingly advantageous for the children of divorce. According to the NHMRC report, the development of a respectful co-parenting relationship is vital to a child’s well being and emotional health.

Mediating an “Honorable Ending”

Divorcing individuals can promote a positive post-marital relationship by starting the divorce process with a respectful and collaborative approach. Mediation can be an effective tool during the dissolution of a marriage. The process includes the parties and a neutral mediator who works to create a mutual agreement between the parties, negating the need for intervention by the courts. Mediation provides a valuable opportunity for divorcing parents to show their children how to resolve disputes in a respectful and cooperative manner.

If you and your spouse aspire to have a respectful and peaceful divorce, let the Law Office of Martin Murphy LLC guide you through the process. Offering mediation services and collaborative representation, the Law Office of Martin Murphy LLC stands apart from other divorce attorneys by offering its clients cost-effective representation. Contact the Law Office of Martin Murphy LLC at (781) 285-8989 for a free consultation today.

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Cohabitation Does Not Lead to Divorce

Recent research by the Wedding RingCouncil on Contemporary Families, a nonpartisan family research organization, suggests that premarital cohabitation is not an accurate predictor of divorce, without additional considerations. According to the report, there has been a long held perception among social scientists that living together before marriage increases the likelihood of divorce in the future. Despite the continuous increase in cohabitation, many relationship experts have relentlessly warned couples against “shacking up,” claiming that the practice will most likely result in a broken marriage. Researchers are now finding that the age of a cohabiting couple is a better indicator of marital longevity.

Professor Arielle Kuperburg of the University of North Carolina, Greensboro, was one of the lead researchers on the study. She asserts that the best predictor of divorce is the age at which a couple begins living together. Couples who move in together prior to the age of 23 years old are more likely to divorce in the future. This reportedly holds true whether they begin cohabiting before or after marriage. Kuperburg explains that the lower maturity levels and economic instability of younger people contribute to this result. Alternatively, older couples who live together, before or after marriage, have a significantly higher chance at a long lasting marriage. Additionally, the study indicated that the longer a couple waits before cohabiting, the more likely they are to have a successful marriage.

To explain the years of reportedly inaccurate information, Kuperberg explains that couples who live together before marriage tend to be younger and that little research has been completed with a controlled age variable. Therefore, studies suggested a direct correlation between cohabitation and divorce rates. The Council on Contemporary Families was the first to study cohabitation trends, with a controlled age variable, and thus the results were significantly different. Other independent studies also dispute the correlation between cohabitation and divorce. In 2012, the Centers for Disease Control released a study that supported the notion that living together during an engagement does not increase the chances of divorce.

Massachusetts’ Consideration of Cohabitation

In the state of Massachusetts, cohabiting individuals are not given the same protections or rights as married couples. However, cohabitation is considered in Massachusetts domestic law. In the divorce case, Moriarty vs. Stone, 41 Mass. App. Ct. 151, the court noted that a family court judge may consider the “circumstances [of the parties] prior to the marriage and, more specifically, the parties’ contributions during a period of cohabitation in fashioning an equitable division.” This means that, if you are in the midst of a divorce and you cohabited with your partner prior to marriage, your premarital contributions to the relationship may be considered by the judge when making a determination about property distribution.

Hire an Experienced Family Law Attorney

An experienced family law attorney can help you determine whether your financial contributions during cohabitation should be considered for property distribution. The Law Office of Martin Murphy LLC stands apart from other divorce attorneys by offering its clients skilled and cost-effective representation. Contact the Law Offices of Martin Murphy LLC at (781) 285-8989 for a free consultation today.
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Who are the Parties Involved in a Collaborative Law Divorce?


Depending upon the situation, there may be several different parties involved in a collaborative law divorce. Each individual’s participation in the collaborative session is geared towards helping the parties reach a fair agreement in an efficient and cost-effective manner.

Collaborative Lawyer

Even though one of the main goals of collaborative law is to avoid going to court, the settlement the parties reach at the end of a collaborative session remains a binding legal agreement. Accordingly, it is important to have an experienced collaborative attorney to assist the parties on all matters of law, including spousal support, child support, and child custody, as well as financial settlements and property distribution. The couple and their collaborative attorneys commit to share necessary information to work towards an agreement that best represents the needs and desires of each party.

Divorce Coach

In Massachusetts, typically one neutral coach is used in a collaborative law divorce case. A divorce coach is a licensed mental health professional that brings specialized skills to the collaborative session. The divorce coach’s role is to help the parties prioritize their concerns and needs, deal with their feelings and differences in healthy ways, stay focused on their goals by neutralizing or minimizing destructive emotions, communicate effectively with each other, with their lawyers, and with their children, and provide them with tools for positive co-parenting going forward.

Financial Specialist

The guidance of a financial specialist in a collaborative law case will help protect each party’s financial interest. A financial specialist is someone with one or more financial certifications, who acts as a neutral expert in a collaborative law case. The financial specialist reviews each party’s assets and incomes, as well as debts and liabilities. A financial specialist will also analyze how different scenarios for property division, child support, and alimony would play out in the future. The financial specialist then assists the parties in analyzing and evaluating viable financial options for the parties’ futures.

Child Specialist

A traditional divorce is especially difficult on children. This is partly due to the fact that children are not well equipped to understand or express their feelings, and communication with their parents during a divorce becomes difficult. In a collaborative practice, however, the welfare of any children takes top priority. A person skilled in understanding children’s wants and needs, known as a child specialist, will meet with children privately, helping them express their feelings and concerns about the divorce. The child specialist encourages children to think creatively about the future. The child specialist then relays the children’s feelings, concerns, and hopes to the collaborative team. By utilizing a child specialist, the team is better equipped to plan for the children’s lives after the agreement is finalized.

Contact an Experienced Massachusetts Collaborative Law Attorney

All parties involved in a collaborative law case share a common goal: to work with the parties in a results-focused environment, in order to reach an agreement without having to enter the traditional adversarial court system. If you or someone you know is interested in this results-oriented approach to resolving disputes, contact the Law Office of Martin Murphy or call (781) 285-8989 today.

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Divorce Celebrations – Harmless Fun or Potentially Damaging?

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The end of a marriage often brings mixed emotions: disappointment that the dream of happily ever after has ended; relief to be moving on from a relationship that was fraught with tension, anger, and acrimony; and if the couple had children, sadness that time spent with the children will be split in a custody agreement.

But for some members of the newly divorced crowd, when “‘til death do us part” ends before the couple’s actual death, it’s not a time to mourn – it’s a time to celebrate.

Divorce Parties

Divorce parties are alive and well, judging from the most recent spate of photos depicting divorce cakes collected on The Huffington Post’s divorce page. Many are created with the same elaborate detail that went into choosing the wedding cake, and depict everything from the bride pushing the groom in a freefall off the top of a three-tiered cake, to beheaded husbands, to a husband happily driving off in a sports car, his bride looking dejected as he zooms off, leaving her behind in a pool of shattered dreams and frosting. There are even party planners who focus solely on throwing celebration bashes for the newly single.

But are they really a good idea?

Negative Impact on the Children

It’s true that some couples are better off divorced. For those living with an emotionally or physically abusive spouse, a serial philanderer or one who continually squanders the family finances, the relief felt at the marriage’s demise is understandable. And some couples may want to formally close that chapter of their life as they turn the page to the new one. But depending on how nasty the celebration is (cheering a husband on as he trades in his wife “for a classier model” is, at the very least, incredibly insensitive), it could negatively impact the children.

Most children of divorce – especially the very young – often feel that the divorce was their fault, despite their parents’ repeated assurances that it was not. Recent studies show that children of divorce reported having a less secure relationship with their parents, and grow up to have anxiety in their own romantic relationships.

A child who witnesses their parent openly celebrating the end of their union – especially in some of the nastier renditions, such as a husband burying his wife, or a wife celebrating that she got everything while her husband is relegated to living in a tent – could cause even greater feelings of confusion.

Negative Impact on Custody

Divorce celebrations may also negatively impact the outcome of custody proceedings.

There are a number of factors that go into a judge’s determination of which parent should be awarded primary physical custody of the children. The courts often take into consideration the ability of each parent to support a loving, ongoing relationship with the other parent, and the mental health of each parent. The non-celebratory spouse could use the outward display of celebration, especially those with an undercurrent of anger and injury, as proof that the other parent cannot meet these two criteria, and therefore should not be awarded primary custody.

If you do feel the need to celebrate the end of your divorce and usher in this new chapter of your life, talk to your Massachusetts family law attorney first to discuss whether such a celebration could negatively impact your divorce or child custody proceedings, either now or in the future.

For help on these matters, contact the Law Office of Martin Murphy at (781) 285-8989 to speak with an experienced collaborative law attorney today.
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Collaborative Law and Prenuptial Agreements

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The past few years have seen an increase in the number of prenuptial agreements. A prenup is a contract signed by two people who are about to marry or enter into a civil union. A prenup can include a variety of different terms, but most contain provisions for division of property and spousal support in the event of a divorce, death, or separation of the parties.

Prenuptial Agreements in Massachusetts

In Massachusetts, there are several requirements for a valid prenuptial agreement:

·      The agreement must be fair and reasonable to both parties when it is created;

·      Each party must make a full and fair disclosure of their financial status to the other party;

·      The agreement must specifically set forth the waiver of certain marital rights (e.g., the right to a court-determined alimony provision and property settlement);

·      Each party must be represented by their own attorney;

·      There must be sufficient time for each party to consider the effects of the agreement;

·      The agreement must be conscionable at the time of enforcement (i.e. the court considers whether circumstances occurring during the marriage would leave one spouse without sufficient property, maintenance, or employment to support themselves).

The Traditional Approach

Traditionally, prenups are adversarial in nature. The attorney for the party initiating the prenup believes that it is his or her duty to protect the assets of their client from the other party, instead of focusing on the joint goals of both parties. An article likens the traditional approach to “drafting a partnership agreement that contains only the ‘exit’ provisions in the event of the dissolution of the partnership.” Furthermore, prenuptial agreements often make people uncomfortable because, by their nature, the agreements include provisions that limit or eliminate altogether certain rights and assets that would belong to the other party at the end of the marriage.

Benefits of a Collaborative Approach

Collaborative law, on the other hand, offers a much simpler and more manageable approach to drafting prenuptial agreements. Under the collaborative approach, the actual agreement is drafted only after the parties have discussed what issues and concerns are most important to them. Each party has the benefit of the advice and assistance of their own collaborative attorney throughout the entire meeting. The attorneys have specialized training in working together to arrive at the best solution for both parties. By participating in these collaborative discussions, the parties are in the best position to plan for foreseeable events during their future together, such as buying a home, having children, establishing careers, and planning for the family’s protection in the event of death of one of the spouses. The entire process thus becomes more about planning for the marriage itself, instead of planning for the possible event of a divorce.

Contact an Experienced Massachusetts Collaborative Law Attorney

If you and your significant other are considering entering into a prenuptial agreement, there are many benefits to using collaborative law. If you are interested in a results-oriented approach without having to enter the traditional adversarial legal system, then collaborative law may be the best approach for you. Contact the Law Office of Martin Murphy at (781) 285-8989 to speak with an experienced collaborative law attorney today.

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