I had the opportunity this week to attend a presentation by Dan Finn, a gifted Collaborative Attorney. Dan spoke on the topic of “Understanding Impasse: Preventions and Interventions.” A theme of the presentation was that in order to separate effectively, couples or parties to a dispute really need to become connected.
While that concept may seem odd, without some connection on some level, people who are in dispute will find it impossible to work out an agreement. Mediators and Collaborative Attorneys assist their clients in staying “connected with the other party” to assist them in reaching an agreement that is in their best interests. Talented Mediators and Collaborative Attorneys have many tools in their toolkits that can assist their clients even in cases where there is a very high level of disconnect with the other party.
My thanks to Dan for a great presentation.
On another note, Catholics around the world celebrated this week as they learned of their new pope. I thought that his choice of name, Francis, was significant. The prayer of St. Francis, which is attributed to St. Francis of Assisi from the 13th century, even with the religious portions removed, provides an inspiration for those seeking resolution.
. . . make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy.
. . . ,
grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive.
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned…
If we could implement even a portion of this prayer as we approach conflict, I think that we would find enough connection with the other party to resolve the dispute in a way that is beneficial to all.
Martin Murphy, Esq. is a collaborative attorney and seasoned mediator. He is dedicated to using the principles and benefits of mediation and collaborative law in the general representation of businesses, their owners and in helping families facing divorce, child custody and other family law issues. The Law Office of Martin Murphy, LLC located in Norwood MA, serves clients in the surrounding communities including Attleboro, Canton, Foxboro, Franklin, Mansfield, Medfield, Medway, Millis, Norfolk, North Attleboro, Plainville, Sharon, Walpole, Westwood, and Wrentham., Marty can be reached at email@example.com