Oscar Time – Are you a Winner or a Loser?

Over the past few months, this theme has been going through my mind. Obama won the election but gets to head back to Washington to deal with a deadlocked Congress. The Patriots made it to the AFC championship only to watch the Ravens roll to the Superbowl. Recently, various actors, actresses and other Hollywood types have jumped, walked and tripped on their way up to the stage to collect awards that must have seemed just beyond the grasp of those nominees still sitting in the audience.

Winning and losing. It happens everyday. Only with time however does one truly understand the success or failure of their quest. Like countless financially broke lottery winners, many find there are ultimate costs associated with the attempt to win. In time, many losers gain the perspective that what they sought wasn’t really worth the cost.

Those experiences often ring true when it comes to a family going through a divorce. Our legal system is still dominated by the framework of winning and losing. That framework can be devastating to a family going through transition. Even in a situation where a wrong has been done, the ultimate cost of “winning” often leaves the victor feeling like they have lost.

Options to the standard approach are available. Mediation and Collaborative Law provide clients with the opportunity to resolve their dispute while maximizing their opportunity to reach as many of their positive goals as possible.

Divorce is unlike running for public office, playing in a championship game, or waiting to be called on stage for an award. Most people don’t grow up looking forward to the opportunity to go through a divorce. Why not choose a process that will be more likely to provide you with a long-term sense of success?

Martin Murphy, Esq. is a collaborative attorney and seasoned mediator. He is dedicated to using the principles and benefits of mediation and collaborative law in the general representation of businesses, their owners and in helping families facing divorce, child custody and other family law issues. The Law Office of Martin Murphy, LLC located in Norwood MA, serves clients in the surrounding communities including Attleboro, Canton, Foxboro, Franklin, Mansfield, Medfield, Medway, Millis, Norfolk, North Attleboro, Plainville, Sharon, Walpole, Westwood, and Wrentham., Marty can be reached at marty@martinmurphyatlaw.com

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